Protect Your BDSM Community

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“You must protect your BDSM community”

BDSM dating can be confusing for beginners; how can you tell what’s best for you, what sites are reputable sources of information, how far is too far? There can be a lot of questions and not a lot of answers out there. We have compiled the top sites for you. Check Dating Site Reviews – Find The Best BDSM Sites Available, based on the reviews, you can make a choice. You should be wary, as well, that sometimes those answers are just not true. A new trend in the BDSM world is forming and it’s horrifying. Yes, BDSM participants like to play with pain, humiliation, and punishment, but that doesn’t mean they like to be abused. Recently, with the surging popularity of BDSM dating sites, predators have found a whole new pool of victims and they are doing their best to cause as much damage as possible.

This certainly isn’t a new idea. Cruel men and women have been preying on beginner submissives in BDSM communities for a long time. It used to be, however, that if anyone in the community heard about it, they had some power over putting an end to it. Communities we tight knit and small, and didn’t put up with abusers in their ranks. If they heard that one of their own was preying upon uneducated fresh meat they went wild. Not only is it appalling to victimize someone (without their permission) but they were doing more than that. There were breaking the trust of the community, the safety of the community, and helping to add to the bad rep BDSM already has.

With the advent of the datingsite (and BDSM lovers, not to be bested, jumped right onto that train) these predators have found it easier than ever to lure unsuspecting, nervous victims into their clutches. Does this mean that BDSM dating sites are dangerous and should be avoided? Of course not, but it does mean that you have to be on the lookout for warning signs that the person you’re talking with does not have your best interests at heart.

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What are the warning signs? Some huge red flags can fly up right from the start. When you’re reviewing someone’s profile, you want to really look at what they’re saying. If they spend the entire body of their page talking in a derogatory manner about their partners, either past or present, you should move on. The BDSM bond is one built out of mutual respect and trust and a good Dom or Domme is not going to belittle their partner outside of their scenes, especially not if they haven’t established that as a fetish to be added to their bag of tricks. You should also be wary of Doms who are only interested in beginners. Are there some tops that get off on teaching a new person their limits and guiding them through the first part of their journey? Yes, of course, being the provider of knowledge is a huge amount of power and control, why do you think there are so fantasies where a teacher abuses their power over a student? But, along with the teachers, there are some folks that are simply looking for inexperience as a means to take advantage of someone.

“Feeling sexual powerless is what some subs crave for”

There seems to be this belief that submissives like being told what to do and that’s what turns them on. While that’s not necessarily untrue, it’s also not what being a sub is about. Submitting is about so much more than following orders. There is something inside a sub that makes them long for punishment or humiliation. Something in them likes to feel like they are not in control of their lives, but that can be severely limited by other aspects of their sexuality. Some subs, for example, do not like to feel sexually powerless, while others do. Some subs do not like to be ordered around, they like to be talked down to and humiliated, while others are exactly the opposite.

The problem with the basic perception of subs is that the men or women preying on them don’t see it as predatory behavior. They don’t think they’re doing anything wrong. To them, ordering a sub to perform sexual acts is fine because subs like being bossed around. The problem here is that they are taking advantage. There is no bond being built and there is certainly no trust to be established if one person is taking advantage of a situation with no concern for the other person. Too often, in situations like this, if the sub voices her concern or discomfort, as she should be comfortable doing, it can lead to violence or even rape.

“Try to be a part of the community”

When an outsider abuses the naivety of someone new to the community, it is devastating. Not only may that person never again try to experience something that could have been so liberating for them, they may spread the fear that’s already rampant in mainstream culture of the BDSM lifestyle. In cases of rape, the effects of that one night can take away part of that person’s very being. It is sickening to think of anyone taking advantage of someone in that way. It’s worse to think that the victim was so trusting and was trying something that was quite possibly scary for them in order to find more satisfaction in their own life.

When our communities were smaller and tighter, there was a little more ability to protect those new to the life. There were ways of punishing the abuser and make sure that their face and name were plastered all around with warnings to stay away. We could take the new subs and Doms under our wings and teach them the ways of the BDSM world. With the Internet, our communities, if they exist at all, are pale specters of what they once were. There maybe be a group that is spread over a large part of the country or even the world. There are also less immediate ways to chastise a person for their misconduct.

Regardless of the difficulties, it is our job as a community to look out for one another. If you notice a profile that, when reviewed, seems sketchy, speak up. Most sites, whether they’re forums, dating sites, or chat rooms, have some kind of monitoring system. Let someone know that you suspect something is off with that individual and keep your eyes peeled for proof. If you hear of or, god forbid, experience an act of abuse, report it. Do not let the unspoken stories of pain and suffering build up or stay hidden. If you see someone who you think might be abusing their power, try to educate them. They could be one of the fools who simply don’t understand the lifestyle or what it means to be a part of it. If that’s the case and you can show them the error of their ways, you may save someone from being unintentionally abused by them. Either way, we have to protect our communities, no matter how small or big they are. Our lifestyle is precious to us; that’s why we sought it out and why we stick with it. Don’t let the cruel or uneducated ruin it for you or anyone you know. Don’t let them take away the satisfaction that someone else is seeking in their life. Our world is worth fighting for, let’s take it back.

November 2, 2014

3 Dating Habits You Should Break Now!

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Everyone has bad habits. You frequently do these habits without even realizing it. If you are on a date, these habits can certainly mess up the mood of your dating partner and ruin the night. It doesn’t matter if you like or don’t like the one you are dating, but you should stop doing these bad dating habits. Here are a few bad dating habits that you ditch now:


Not being focused on the date

When you are on date, it is important that you focus and concentrate on the occasion and to the person on the other side of the table. Give full attention to your date and grab the chance to know him or her much better. Stop looking around the room if you are anxious or nervous. Your date will get the impression that you are not enjoying it or he or she is too boring for you. Avoid answering phone calls unless it is an emergency call. Also, avoid taking your phone from your pocket just to take a picture of the meal both of you are going to have so that you can post this on your social media account. This gives the person the idea that you are not enjoying the date.


Allow your date to talk

Going on a date for the first time can be awkward. This awkward feeling will give a series of silence during the date. Due to these gaps in the date, you may tend to overdo things and talk more about yourself. Give your partner time and allow him or her to say things about them. If you do most of the talking, then your date may think that you are not interested about them and what they want to say. Ask open-ended questions that lead to good conversation. Asking questions is also good because there are people who are naturally silent and would just talk when they are asked.

After the date, it is natural for either of you to reach out to the other. When this happens, stop playing games with your date partner by not answering the person’s texts or calls. Unless you have a valid reason not to answer the call or give a return text, give some time to communicate with the person. Doing so will make your partner think that you show care and you are willing to build a serious relationship.

These are just some of the bad habits that you do without knowing it. Minimize these habits and you will be able to enjoy your date more. Dating has to be fun, and you can definitely make it enjoyable if you focus on the person and the occasion.

October 4, 2014

How to Chase Away Bloating

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Being bloated is one of the most common problems of people today. There’s just so much food out there that would make you drop your jaw or if not, get you drooling over them. As nice as the thought of eating yummy foods is like, if we ask reality how it is – it’s very uncomfortable when you get bloated because of this. It’s definitely not ideal to get yourself into this situation. Yes, you can enjoy food but it’s always something that you should watch out.


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Definitely, you don’t have to deprive yourself of eating as much as you can handle. Sometimes it’s just so good to reward yourself with a yummy treat especially after a day of hard work. So how do you actually chase away bloating? Are there ways that would work very well? Yes there is! And here’s the following:

Eat some fruits along with your food

Don’t worry you’re not going to get really stuffed if you do this! You have oranges as well as watermelons that will definitely help your tummy avoid bloating. As we all know, water flushes out the waste and even excess water out of your body. These two fruits are definitely loaded with as much water as your body needs to eliminate whatever is hindering your tummy from digesting properly. You can be sure that these are very safe and definitely a healthy way to do it. Just make sure you don’t eat too much. Just eat as much as your body need, not as much as you want.


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Say Hello to Your Oatmeal Again

Oatmeal is popularly known for the fiber that they contain. This fiber nutrient definitely will help your tummy in digesting properly. It’s definitely a good thing to eat when your tummy starts to harden up and you start to find it very hard to move around. You may be tempted not to eat it especially if you were just bloating yourself with something sweet but you can surely find ways to make this food appealing to you after all that.

Chili Peppers to Spice It Up With

There’s always something about chili peppers that your tummy would appreciate and that something is the active ingredient called “Capsaicin”. It helps so much in increasing your metabolism rate and even your food cravings. It also makes you not want to have more sweets which would just be helpful to also stop you from stuffing yourself up.

Getting rid of that bloating tummy is surely possible when you know what to do with it. However, just one point you need to remember: don’t let bloating happen to you as much as it used to. Just because you have solutions doesn’t mean you are free to tolerate yourself.

September 24, 2014

Make Retirement Fun and Worth the Save with These 3 Places

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Thinking of retiring? It will need careful planning. That is why today we run down on the best 3 places worth checking out for retirement. There are a lot of good reasons and advantages to retiring in foreign land. At old age, a lot of factors come in to play. Proper health care, cost of living, climatic conditions, and ease of traveling back to the U.S. – these are things to consider when choosing the best place fit for retirement.

1. Rain or shine – in Galway, Ireland, you always shine


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Ireland could just be your doorway to Western Europe. Ever since Ireland went down with a housing bust, the shocking drop in prices of ideal real estate has promised a future for retirees. The climate is a mix of rains and cold weather with temperatures that go from 40 to 60 degrees. The year is pretty much expected to be rainy though. Population estimate is 250, 653. Retirees are ensured of proper health care in Galway University Hospital and its local facilities, Merlin Park University Hospital and University Hospital Galway in the city.

For the best flights to the U.S. is a three and a half hour bus commute or three hours on train to Dublin. Shannon Airport is a closer alternative, that’s only two hours away. The cost of living is reasonable. At $2,500 monthly, you could live and sleep peacefully.

2. Truly Asia – George Town, Malaysia could just be your place


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The Malaysia My Second Home Program has helped retirees settle down in Malaysia and reap various retirement incentives. Thanks to its old ties with Britain, English is spoken in George Town so you do not need to worry about language barriers.

Malaysia is truly Asia, coming behind Philippines and Thailand for the country with the lowest living cost, any couple can have the most colorful Asian retirement experience on $1,500 monthly. The weather is hot and humid with temperatures that reach 60 – 80 degrees. Just located northwest of Malaysia, living in George Town brings rain on April and October.

You get access to adequate health plans with several local clinics and hospitals around George Town. They even offer reputable dental services too. Just 10 miles south of George Town is Penang International Airport. One flight connection is needed to get to the U.S.

3. Spend your retirement in paradise that is Coronado, Panama

Just located on the Pacific coast, Coronado Panama is becoming a home to a lot of retirees, especially expats. English is widely spoken and embraces a dollar-based economy. At $1,300 monthly, retired couples can bask in sweet paradise. The hot and dry climate plus the excellent accommodation and dining, Coronado should not be missed.

The San Fernando Clinic is a well-regarded hospital and offers excellent health programs. The Tocument International Airport is an hour away to nonstop flights to and fro the U.S.

So which is going to be? The selections above are amazing. Get on Google now and search more about the wonderful places that await you and your retirement. Goodluck!

September 1, 2014

3 Surefire Ways to Raise Money for Your Small Business

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Many times people have ideas that are excellent for business. The person who had the idea even got everything in writing that the business plan is done. The only thing lacking is the money to fund the business. If you have a really great business idea and you have had the business plan made to be able to showcase what your business idea can turn into, how much funding it needs, how many people will benefit from the emergence of the business, you are likely to be able to get your funding with pride.

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6 Sure-Fire Ways to Keep Your Small Business Financially Secure

Crowd funding with relatives and friends

Crowd funding is the pooling of resources by many people towards one goal. In effect, the needed funding can be reached without being burdened by a big amount shared by each contributor. There are internet sites that cater to this need, although, most if not all, are not for business. You can, instead, go to your relatives and friends doing the same concept. Asking them for help, showing your business plan and offering them something in the future like a token or a share in your business which earns a dividend.

Find a business partner who will take care of the finances

There are people who got the money but do not have the passion, patience and perseverance to do whatever it takes to take care of a business. Find that kind of person, show your business plan and prepare an earning scheme that will benefit him/her without hurting the business. It should be a win-win-win solution for you, your financier and the clients or customers.

Apply for a loan against your assets or employment income

It is easier to apply for a loan if you have assets like real estate, car, or jewelry. You will be given enough funding which is lower than the value of your assets so that you will get your assets back, otherwise, you will lose financially and the creditor will gain. Make sure you will be able to pay on time to avoid penalty on delayed payment or the possibility of losing your assets. If your business financial need is small enough, you can also try multipurpose loan which most employees have as a privilege. The approved loan usually depends on the number of years you have contributed, which will also be part of your pension when you retire. Paying is light and easy so better pay on time to avoid any problem in the future.


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Setting up a small business needs an idea and money to finance the idea. While some have both, many have one or the other only. If you have the idea, finding the funding source is still very possible.

August 1, 2014